Kink is about the myriad of sexualities and sexual fantasies people have. It's an extremely diverse landscape. One where consent is at the forefront of the conversation. 

Got ideas and stuff to add to these resources? Send us an email at my@souling.au - all are welcome. 

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Souling mantra: It’s okay for me to explore my kinky side.

Journal starter: I have always felt turned on by _______, but felt a bit ashamed or embarrassed to say it out loud. 

My desires are actually… 

I want to try out… 

I’m excited to learn more about…

Souling action: Research. Research, research, research. Start with the resources I’ve shared below, or head to Google or ChatGPT and go on your own digital adventure. The most important thing to remember in your exploration of kink is that all feelings are okay, no matter how they show up for you. If you ever considered stepping into the world of kink more seriously, talk to people first. If you go to a sex club, watch first; you don’t need to do anything, watching is a great experience in itself, and it will allow you to get a feel for what you like and what you don’t. Don’t be afraid to speak your feelings out loud as you explore different experiences. Write down what you’re experiencing and then continue your research. Kink is a spectrum. You might enjoy the simplicity of a little bondage or you might like to be tied to a St Andrew’s Cross and insulted, all I can say is, Boo, do you, in safety and in exploration. 

Resources: 

Porn to consider checking out: 

Queer: 

  • Queer Porn TV
  • Crash Pad (queer women/trans folk)
  • Whipped Ass on Kink.com
  • Say Uncle (for kinky gay men) 

Hetero: 

If you want to watch some safe kink porn, you can find Adoredhippie and Kinky4love on Pornhub.

Just note that these two couples show their specific sexual preferences and couldn’t ever portray kink in all its glory and diversity, they would be considered quite soft kink - a potential good place to start for hetero kink babies. There are thousands of ways to explore kink across sexualities so, if you’re up for a bit of searching through porn sites, you can definitely find some stuff that gets you going. 

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